Did being in the school environment or a teacher wound me?
Well let’s see from the question on page xii.
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“The belief that you are not smart, not
competent in learning”. I do feel that every student, no matter what school you
went to, will have these feeling and its just part of being human. We question
why and what we do.
“The belief that your abilities are fixed and
cannot be improved with effort, coaching, intervention, or self-understanding”.
No, I do not feel that my abilities are fixed or can't be improved
upon. I'm learning every minute of the day and my abilities change every week.
Every year there are always exciting things new to discover. It’s even exciting
to find things that, we as human beings, are always adapting to find new ways
that can change within our environment.
The human soul needs this to be able to grow, so that we understand who
we were, are, and where we're going.
“Painful memories of shaming experiences in
school that lives on in you as generalized anxiety and a low appetite for
intellectual risk taking”. I don't like to speak in public because
I was teased for how I spoke. I
couldn't pronounce all the words correctly and it did affect me, but that is
something that I'm trying to overcome. I still speak in public, even though it
makes me nauseous, and I have a hard time doing it. It’s something that I’m striving to overcome everyday.
”A tendency to classify
others, and yourself, into dualistic, reductive categories:
“smart/dumb,’’artistic/not artistic”. Of course, I sometimes classify
myself as non-artistic or not smart enough, I think we all go through this.
“A generalized loss of pleasure in learning. Of course, I find a loss in pleasure when doing artwork. It depends on what's going on my life, and
if the artwork is not going right. I can't think through it or get it
done. We all lose that pleasure of
play that we have in the artwork from time to time.
“And finally, unprocessed
feelings about education and learning that you enact as an adult in your
interactions with your own children or students”. I have a feeling
that we all have memories of teachers that we didn't like. Maybe something happened and we
interacted with them negatively or were scolded in the classroom. Many students carry these memories
throughout their adult lives and retain a bad impression of education into
their adulthood.
“It is the communication and listening skills, more than
anything else, that determine the quality of her recommend habits of mind
(dualistic thinking, labeling, judging, blaming) create communication styles
that lead to separation and dysfunction in our relationships.” Wow, what a powerful statement! Assisted if we don't have
communication with our students how are we supposed to determine if they are succeeding.
If we are succeeding in the creation of a lifelong relationship in their
learning, we have to have communication.
If not, this is where dysfunctional labeling and blaming comes
from. We need to really think
about what we're saying to our students.
On page 124 “Transcending
Fear: The Practice of Truthspeaking”. I have been on both sides of this
story. Being the teacher and not knowing why your students haven't done their
homework or what is behind that reason.
It makes you so angry to be a teacher sometimes. I have also been on the
student side where you're overwhelmed. You feel like you're sinking. The
statement right there really, JUMPED OFF THE PAGE for me. Because, I always
feel like I'm below the waterline and can't even grab or hold onto something to
save me. You know that place, where you have so much homework and so much going
on in your life that you don't see an end to it all. You might feel like you're so behind and try to catch up you
feel like you are getting behind. What a powerful message this is for anybody
that has been in the same place. We all need to reconnect with what is going on
in each other’s lives, before we make judgments. If it’s our students, or if we
are the teacher, we need to be able to relate to each other to understand or
have empathy. Without all of this how can we become better teachers? I had to
share that in that section of the book I was amazing and moving to me.